"When i was really little I was convinced that my prince would come galloping on a white stallion to come rescue me from a towering castle and take me to his palace in the clouds..."
Sound familiar? Living in a 'man's world' women are viewed as weak, overdramatic, non level headed bitches- am i wrong? It's a patriarchal world out there, but no worries ladies because feminism is sword fighting in the battle of equality with the sexes and we've got growing numbers. Let me begin by saying something that is most confused about this term. Feminism does not in any way mean "I hate men", it means "I want gender equality socially, economically, and politically" so I hope that cleared up any confusion because this is what I'd want people to understand when I tell them I am a feminist.
When I was really little, I was not convinced a prince would come rescue me because refused to be weak and not able to stand up and rescue myself. I wanted to grow up to be a strong independant woman so this was not in the agenda for this little princes (yes I still wanted to be a princess but a badass one with a sword and long brown hair flowing in the wind like Mulan or Merida but not like the other disney princesses) and so from day one I was determined to find my own way out.
This did not start off well because I grew up with the wrong influences engraving in my head that girls had to be this and girls had to be that when in reality girls no matter what they did or didn't do made them girls because they identified as one. That's right so all you people slut shaming each other- shame on you. Just because girls dress more 'revealing' does not give you the right to call them whores, don't fucking look at their boobs or up their skirt, they are not dressing for you to act like a pig and eye them like a piece of meat. Some girls like to dress for themselves and whistling for them is completely idiotic. Or if they sleep with alot of people it does NOT give you the right to call them sluts because it's their body and that fact that it's not YOUR body is a big red light to name calling or judging them. Girls also don't have to sit, or eat, or dress, or shave, or act 'like a lady' whatever the fuck that means. Also 'fighting like a girl' is not supposed to be engraved into our society was being weak- when girls kick ass it is scary and there's nothing wrong to fight like one. I strongly believe that having a vagina and ovaries kicks ass over a scrawny dick and a pair of testacles because they dont have periods they don't get the cramps they don't get pregnant and the second you kick those stupid balls they cry like babies.
So how did I learn all this stuff (because I'm still learning and discovering new things)? Youtubers and Tumblr- so basically the internet (so don't you tell me the internet is useless because I've learned more about world issues on here than I did in school so you can shove that up your bum) and if you don't know what that is I suggest you check that out because it's been a nice experience getting to know stuff about feminism, it's actually quite interesting and important! So anyways eventually little Marcia (before she became an official feminist) eventually discovered boys. And not the kind that she'd want to be around might I add- wait why did I start talking in the third person- okay so when puberty started so did the stupidity, not that it was lacking but it just got worse.
Boys were rude, immature, and quite frankly not at all intelligent.
I was so confused as a young Marcia because in the books I had read over the summer before coming to the painful realization that boys were not mysterious, intelligent in the way I wanted them to be, educated, or adventurous- boys seemed exciting.... but were nothing like that in real life. In the pages waited adventures and quirky love stories- at school waited dull mundane idiots.
Really mean neighbors and classmates would ask "why don't you have a boyfriend?" and not in the curious way. They wanted me to feel uncomfortable while they proudly ranted about their two week boyfriends. I used to feel really bad and self conscious wondering what was wrong with me and telling myself that I wasn't pretty enough, or skinny enough, or that I was defective and this eventually made me take a few wrong turns down the road.
Today in the shower (where I do most of my thinking and arguing with myself) I thought about that question I was asked a hundred times and finally very confidently was able to answer to my own echoey voice:
"I've never had a boyfriend because up to this point in life I've never met a boy who was aware of world issues, was a feminist, didn't see me as a piece of meat, or was in anyway intellectually lethal like Matthew Grey Gubler to actually turn this girl on. Intelligence and being aware of worldly issues- also a huge vocabulary is a big turn on for this missy. I am also not skinny or stupid that being a requirement for almost all boys I've encountered- either that or I intimidate them which I very much do prefer. I am a brilliant, lethal, curvy, boy-intimidating young lady that loves food and cares largely for feminism and dogs. And that is why I don't have a boyfriend. Any questions?"
Now sometimes girls will tell me "but he's handsome/gorgeous/hot" and I agree with them sometimes; [ insert examples of good looking boys here]
Matthew Grey Gubler | Criminal Minds
Intellectually lethal & a total babe
[but darn he's fictional]
Mr. golden locks and pale skin
Adventurous and very sexy
[Did i mention lethal & very fictional as well?]
But do you see what these unf boys have in common? They're fictional. They don't exist. And does this bother me? Little bit. Sure I'd love to ride into the sunset on Jace's motorcycle and have Gubler here teach me about everything he knows... but the truth is if boys like this did exist, would I still want to date a them?
'Why' you may ask?
Well because I like girls.
Well like are you kidding me? After knowing all these years that I thought girls were amazing and discovering fictional boys were only just fictional~ why not just date one? I felt like the stupidest person in the world when I came to the realization that I never like boys anyway (and would only like them in theory) having spent so much time wondering why they didn't like me. But anyways if youre a girl and you like girls you know what I'm talking about when I say like girls is so fucking great. And if you don't then let me tell you a thing. It's the best thing in the word, it's really neat man like you get your own best friend who gets the periods and loves cuddling and it's basically like dating yourself except it's not and oh god i made that sound so creepy and baaaaad but no trust me they get it. When you date a girl they get what it's like to be a girl and they know how to treat you right and what to do when you're sad and how to make you happy. They also smell really good and are so very soft and well mine is just the best in the whole universe and gives amazing kissed that make me feel all nice and warm inside >.<
Cuddles!
So if you ever get the chance to date a girl and you're a girl too well let me tell you, you will think it's the most wonderful thing in the world ..... or you're just a very confused child that's still discovering their sexuality and that's wonderful too!
Sincerely, the Resilience of a Teenager
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